Moving to another country is a challenge on its own – new city, new people, new language in some cases… but what about all those challenges that kicks you out of your comfort zone once you land in your new final destination? It takes time to overcome those challenges and make yourself comfortable. And sometimes, no matter how hard you try, certain things follow you around all the time. I don’t like when people move abroad and complain how life in a certain country is harder for them. Poor you, wipe your tears & move on. The fact is that each country is set up to make their own people comfortable and if you want to live somewhere else than your motherland, you have to adapt and learn new things.I think I did a pretty good job adapting to the UK culture, however, when I look back 5 years ago and remember my trip to Newcastle with 4 suitcases, a backpack on my shoulders and American English language skills… I had a good few challenges to overcome.
Challenge 1. Tea is not always what you think it is
So we all think that we know what tea means, right? Wrong! In some parts of the UK, tea can mean dinner, whilst dinner can mean lunch. Confusing, innit? But now you know if someone is asking if you had a tea, they might not necessarily mean a cup of tea.
Challenge 2. Best wishes XX
Many of us know what xx at the end of a message means. In the UK, people put xx on everything. Whether it is your friend, boyfriend, tutor, boss at work, they all like to send kisses to each other. Imagine my face when I got a first one from a colleague at work that I just started, thinking ‘OMG, does he like me? Will it be uncomfortable next time I’m at work? Should I mention it?’ So don’t get your hopes up if you get some kisses when you are here, people don’t mean it. What if they do? It’s a pretty tough job to find that out!
Challenge 3. Public Transport
Public transport is never on time in the UK. Okay, maybe not all the time but most of the time. Whether it’s a bus, a train or a metro, it likes to be late. And don’t get surprised if you find out that your train to someplace is cancelled because ‘crew were not available’. They don’t need big excuses to be late or cancelled.
Recently a brand new super fast kinda train was presented in the UK and guess what? It was 40 mins late on its launch day. You get what I mean.
Challenge 4. No plug sockets in bathrooms
I still remember the first time I came to the UK and tried to plug my hair dryer into the electric razor socket. God dammit, it was not working! They say it is for safety reasons so you wouldn’t electrocute yourself. So if you are like me who are used to doing their hair in the bathroom, you will have to change your habits – there’s no plug sockets in bathrooms in the UK, sorry mate.
Challenge 5. Washing machines in the kitchen
In many UK homes you will find a washing machine nowhere else but in the kitchen. Weird, I know. I can look after my oven and the washing machine at the same time so I guess it’s a win-win situation unless my laundry smells like a roast chicken…
Challenge 6. Red Light does not exist
Red light basically doesn’t exist in the UK. If you stand waiting for a light to change, most likely you are the only one doing it or there’s a few newbies in town who are doing it with you. Locals never wait for a light to change, unless they have kids, and they cross the street any time they feel appropriate. Even if it’s middle of the night, they had a few drinks too many and the car is about two steps away from them. Don’t be that bore who waits for the green light! (joking, of course, do not cross the street or listen to me at any point of this post)Challenge 7. British slang
And there’s a lot of it ladies & gentlemen! Mint, cheeky, gutted, knackered, skint, steaming, bugger off… don’t worry if you don’t know what any of this means, it’s fine. I promise you can still live, talk and have a conversation with someone without it. It might cause some funny and confusing situations but you will get over it. I remember when I went into one of my first restaurants in the UK and the toilets said ‘Lads & Lasses‘ on them without any pictures, explanations or any other clues that would help me decide if I go left or right. So if you ever find yourself in this situation, lads means men & lasses means women. You’re welcome.
Challenge 8. You alright is a greeting, not a question
It’s not a surprise that in the UK people like to be friendly, even if they don’t mean it. They will always smile and ask if you are alright. If you hear this in Britain, ‘you alright’ is a greeting, not a question. No one expects you to answer it… don’t start a long solo-speech of how you, your family, your relatives are doing, no one is listening.
Challenge 9. Carpets, carpets everywhere
In many houses, apartments, student accommodations in the UK people like to use carpets. They are in corridors, living rooms, bedrooms, bathrooms, everywhere. Hands up who’s got a carpet in their flat/house? I refused to live in one! Finding a flat with no carpets was a challenge on its own because everyone for some sort of unknown reason love carpets. In my personal opinion, bugs love living under the carpet, especially when you cannot move it or fully clean out.
Challenge 10. Driving on the left-hand side
I have been driving in a few different countries before moving to the UK, however, all countries use right-hand system. In Britain, you have the joys of driving on the left-hand side. Ain’t nothing wrong with that at all, only the fact that you will get lost, confused, scared, shocked and sweaty when you’ll drive out on the WRONG side of the road thinking you are doing a great job. I still get into situations when I catch myself unintentionally wanting to turn into the wrong lane & I have to constantly think about it before I put the volume up of my favourite song.
Challenge 11. Queuing
Never ever try to beat a British person in a queuing championship, you are going to be a sore loser. I’ve never seen a country where people queue so patiently and so in line like they do it in Britain. Absolute perfection! And if you ever try to beat the queue, be ready for a fight, like you are the target of the Hunger Games. RUN or don’t do it!
Challenge 12. Chip butty
Yes, it is real. It’s not made up or only shown in movies, people in the UK actually eat a chip sandwich. A sandwich made with chips (French fried potatoes) on buttered white or brown bread or a bun. Delicious? I would rather say interesting and very, very weird.
Challenge 13. See you later
See you later or never ever again? No matter if you are buying your morning cup of tea or coffee, shopping for a weekly fridge top-up or saying goodbye to your beloved one, most people say ‘see you later‘ as a goodbye. It works in some cases, while in others it gets rather confusing. Why a lady from my corner-shop wants to see me later? Is she going to follow me? I started using it myself (how dare you)… but still wonder what if I never ever see you again? That’s a bit disappointing, innit?
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You’ve immersed quite well! With your xx’s and your slang 😀
I will NEVER understand the sockets missing from the bathroom!! That drives me crazy everytime I go to the UK — how do you do your hair without a mirror? Where do you do it? I don’t understand!
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I know (facepalm)! When I moved to the UK xx’s used to REALLY do my head in & now I notice doing it more. Not cool at all. I’m trying to get me out of this habit.
And yes, I feel so luxurious when I go back to Germany & do my hair in the bathroom. I have to do mine in the bedroom, next to my mirror… I still hate doing it like that though!
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Love this post!! I live in the US right now, but I love London and would love to live there. These are all very real aspects that would happen when you move to a new country. It’s so easy for people to skip over the small aspects of moving that you don’t realize are going to happen until you move to a place. Where did you move to England from?
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Hi Joy, I am glad you liked it. Well I was born in Lithuania but then my family moved to Germany so I came to England from there!
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Great List! I’m originally from England so I see these challenges can be hard for expats!
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Hahahaha these kinds of insights are the best!! Also, living in an English-speaking British colony (Australia), it’s funny to see how we are so similar in some respects but so different in others. For instance, having a washing machine in the kitchen seems ridiculous and Australians aren’t all that good at sticking to orderly queues… but do Americans honestly not have carpets?? And do you not say “see you later”?? Blows my mind 🙂 Thank you for sharing this list, gave me a great chuckle!
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I’m glad you liked it! I’m not too sure about Americans, I’ve never been there but I was born in Lithuania & spend most my time growing up between Lithuania and Germany so things like that are very, very unusual to me. 🙂
And when I mean carpets, I don’t mean a carpet being placed somewhere in the room, that’s alright. It’s the fact that the whole room or even the whole flat/house is all covered in carpet. Even if it’s your bathroom and I bet it gets damp, they still have carpet.
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LOL a lot at this I have lived in the UK as an expat and you are spot on mate – there is so much to love about the place and so much to get used to. Need to add to your list tiny fridges and getting used to shopping almost every day. That still takes me some time to get the hang of now I am back. But then again love the variety of markets where you can buy everything from fruit and veg to underwear.
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Haha I loved this post 🙂 I haven’t lived in England, but I know how confusing it can be to adopt cultures and sayings. I freaked out the first time a Chilean customer said “mi amor” to me! I thought that only couple said that to each other. Btw you are so right on this one: The fact is that each country is set up to make their own people comfortable. kind regards, Nana
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Haha I believe I would be the same if someone casually said ‘mi amor’ to me. I live in the North East of England so people call each other darlings, pets… pretty much everything! At first it was weird how my boss used to say ‘hello darling’ to me on the phone until I realised they said it to everyone! And I have nothing against any of these things I mentioned on this post… it’s just situations that make you laugh or shock you a little! Same way when my British partner goes back to Germany with me and gets into situations that get him shake his head. I think that will be the next one – challenges in Germany. 🙂
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Haha, a brilliant post! I can definitely see some truth in these =)
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i’m moving to London in Febraury so i really appreciated this post!
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You’ll be prepared for all of this now! 😊
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This is really interesting! As a British Expat now living in the USA it’s funny to see it from a different perspective! I always say “see you later” in America, I wonder if they are secretly thinking that too? haha
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Haha it’s always a funny one! When I first heard someone saying it, I thought why they are telling me they will see me later, I don’t know them.
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Haha, I found myself nodding a lot reading this. I am an expat myself in London, and I could really relate! 🙂
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Yes, then my job is done well here!
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I always love seeing how people perceive our quirks! The one that stood out was the ‘xx’ because it’s something I’ve always done, and I remember commenting on an American friend’s status and ending it with an ‘x’ and minutes later I got an angry message from his girlfriend!!! Haha, I’d never thought about it before that. I think chip butties are regional as I’ve not seen them that often and find them weird myself! The weird one we have up here (northern Scotland) is mince rolls!! So literally beef mince… in a roll. It’s delicious but you have to eat it quick or it falls apart haha. Also it really annoys me that we don’t have plugs in our bathrooms, too!
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You see, a lot of confusion haha you and your kisses everywhere! I live in Newcastle so that might be why because chip butties here are popular, especially if you go to the coast for fish & chips, everyone is having a chip butty with it! Never had mince rolls! Thank god someone agrees! I always do my hair in our bedroom and it drives me mad because I’m used to doing it in the bathroom!
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My sister lived in London for a year on a work assignment. I’ll have to show this to her because she’ll probably relate to a lot of them haha.
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Oh let me know what she says!
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To adjust in a new country is always a nightmare for first instance but when adjusted, it is a bliss. You may be finding driving odd on left side but as in India it is also on left side we find it difficult on right side in US and other countries. You are quite a good observant, I must say.
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This was so interesting! I’m British, but been living as an expat in various places the last five or six years, so it was weird to see the opposite perspective! Thanks for sharing.
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This brought me back to my days living in the UK!! Ah, I can totally relate and I’m love the little British jokes you put in here. I definitely FB commented on this with “xx”, I took that UK habit home with me. Love the post and the memories it brought back.
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I just moved to England so I can definitely relate. I am really nervous about learning to drive here!
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I could totally relate to some of these points – when I lived in Spain for a couple of months, there were some things that were very weird for me. Such as – how the heck can you live without a window in the bathroom? I will never understand it!
Oh man, you need sockets in the toilet for a LOT of things! This is horrible hahahah
Loved this post, Akvile ♥
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Oh yes, that’s another one – we haven’t got a window in our bathroom too! Haha never noticed it… even thought at home i would always open the window once I am out of shower!
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Yeah, but there are situations in which you NEED the window in the toilet… Well, I guess they don’t ahahah
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What an insight, funny and lighthearted post. I learned a few things specially xx and the local transport being late. uggh. i have to keep that in mind when traveling since we always go for public transport.
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Yes, I always use local transport on a pretty much daily basis but then again, being late for work because public transport was late is pretty much a normal excuse here. So you might be ok, depending where you are going!
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Haha, I’ve got to comment as I’m British! I love how customs over the world differ and what is second nature to me, is so alien to you. Everyone one of the points you mentioned are so very British and so typical of everyday life here. Great read – TY for making me smile on a cold Sunday morning xx 😉
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Thank you! I am glad I was able to make you smile today. My boyfriend was saying exactly the same thing. He said he has never seen or noticed those things that I pointed out but when he read it, he said every one of them made sense. Unless you go someplace else and then look back at it, you would never be able to tell it because that’s normal daily stuff to you.
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This is hilarious! Can totally relate with my fiance being British and the many awkward moments I’ve had with his fam asking me if I’m alright haha thanks for sharing { xx }
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But…are we expats or immigrants? Join the discussion on my latest post. I look forward to reading your thoughts!
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